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LADIES; Seven things you shouldn’t say or do when your friend gets engaged

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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"><b><span style="color: red;"><span style="background-color: white;">1. Critique</span> the ring<span style="background-color: white;">:</span></span></b><br />
<br />
<span style="background: white;">My friend’s</span> engagement
ring <span style="background-color: white;">is not like your
standard ring. It’s different and judging by the caption she included with the
picture, exactly what she asked for. It didn’t include a diamond and it wasn’t
platinum. And instead of people applauding the fact that her man listened to her
and got it right, one of the very first comments under the picture was, “Nice
ring but I’m still</span> waiting <span style="background-color: white;">on
my diamond though.” Umm… two things. 1.) Don’t talk about the</span> <span style="background-color: white;">engagement ring</span> <span style="background-color: white;">that
her dude went and got for her at her request. If it’s good for her, then it
should be none of your concern. And 2.) Don’t make this about you! A lot of us
are still</span> <span style="background-color: white;">waiting</span> <span style="background-color: white;">on rings but this is supposed to be about
celebrating your friend’s engagement not talking about your hypothetical one.
Chill and let her have her moment.</span><br />
<br />
<span style="background: white;"><b><span style="color: red;">2. Question the timing of the engagement:</span></b></span><br />
<br />
<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Comments like “Really, so soon?” or “Finally!” aren’t appropriate for
this time. If she said yes, then the timing worked for her. You’re not the one
who’s committing your life to anyone.<br />
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3. Try to talk her out of marrying him</span></b><br />
<br />
If you’re her sister, mother or very best
friend– and I do mean very best friend– and you feel like this really isn’t the
right move, then ask her if she’s sure one time. If she says yes then tap into
your inner Lupita Nyong’o and act like you’re happy for her.<br />
If it is a mistake, let it be hers to make. Planning a wedding and embarking on
a new life with someone are not easy transitions, she’ll need a support system.
And at the end of the day, whether you think it’s a mistake or not, is not the
point. Your friend/family member is
an adult (hopefully) with the free will to make her own decisions. As much as
it might hurt to watch, you have to let her make them. If you are not one of
the above mentioned characters in her life story, then you really
shouldn’t speak on it at all.<br />
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4. Compare your journey to hers:</span></b><br />
<br />
So far, most of these pointers have been in relation to the engaged woman. But
this one is all about you, boo. When people we’ve grown up with start getting
married and having babies etc, it can be easy for us to compare our journeys
with theirs. You start thinking things like “Maybe I should be engaged now
too.” “I’m not even dating anyone.” “I’m so far behind.” After all we went
through school together, hit puberty around the same time and graduated on the same day, we should be reaching life’s milestones
together too right? Wrong. Teddy Roosevelt told y’all, “Comparison is the thief
of joy.” Everyone’s path is different and you’re not competing with anyone but
yourself. Don’t try to live anyone else’s life, I guarantee you won’t like it.
Sure, you can take some time and see what’s going on with folks, even celebrate
with them. You should. But be sure to get back to your own lane and do you<br />
<br /><b><span style="color: red;">
5. Agree to be a bridesmaid when you can’t afford it/don’t want to:</span></b><br />
<br />
Unless you feel morally obligated to take on the role of bridesmaid, I suggest
you don’t do it if you know your money is funny or you just don’t want to be in
the wedding. If you sign on for this responsibility and your heart or your
pockets aren’t fully in it, you’ll be the bridesmaid who complains about every
penny spent and every activity planned. And that’s not who you want to be. Not
only will it hurt your friend’s feelings if she finds out, the women you’re
complaining to will know not to invite you to be a part of their day. This is
the time to be happy for your girl and if being in the wedding is going to take
away from some of that happiness, then you should be honest with her and just
chill with the general audience.<br />
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6. Give Unsolicited wedding planning advice</b></span><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">I know for some of you this is going to be a hard one. But unless your
friend explicitly uses the words, “What do you think…” then assume she doesn’t
want your input. With all the bridal magazines, Pinterest boards and other
pieces of advice she’ll be getting from family (read: her mother), you throwing
in your two cents into the pot might be an overload. Plus she might not like
your taste. Wait until she comes to you.<br />
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7. Ask if she is pregnant:</span></b><br />
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Even if she is…just don’t ask this question. It’s rude.</span></div>
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LADIES; Seven things you shouldn’t say or do when your friend gets engaged

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LADIES; Top 5 reasons you should never ask a man out

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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="background: white;">I’ve heard it before… It’s the 21st century!
Gender roles don’t exist anymore! Women can play the role of men! Bla, bla,
bla.</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"><br />
<span style="background: white;">But don’t forget that while our mothers and our
grandmothers didn’t have the opportunities we have today, they did have
something going for them – They well understood their role! And no, not in the
kitchen, barefoot and pregnant. I mean, humble, meek, strong, not pushy,
passive, yet passionate.</span><br />
<br />
<span style="background: white;">Hence, when any woman sees an attractive man,
she should hold back from approaching him. She is the crown jewel. The man
should come and seek his prize! But just incase this is not good enough reason
for you, here are 5 more!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="color: red;"><b>1. What if he’s CRAZY? DERANGED??</b></span><br />
<br />
Let’s say you see this hottie across the way. He’s got the entire package:
heightened stature, darkened complexion, toned physique. Whew! You decide to
quit with the BS! ‘I’m a good catch too!’ you think to yourself. He needs a
woman like me in his life. So you step to him. He is humbled when you speak
first. He<br />
laughs it off and seems almost embarassed by your action. When you ask him for
the digits, he rattles them off. You walk away because that’s the only thing
left to do. You call, he answers. You go out, he’s cool. Then, one day, you
find out he has baby momma drama, a reposessed car, a foreclosed home, plus,
he’s just plain CRAZY!<br />
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Now, look back. Don’t you wish you hadn’t said a mumbling word?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"><b><span style="color: red;">2. Let a man be a man!</span></b><br />
<br />
I know that’s difficult sometimes. Because, for one, men don’t always know how
to be men (can I get an AMEN!). But that’s okay. You need to let them learn.
Don’t be their mother. Don’t attempt to teach them. And check this: if he’s the
right kind of man. I’m talkin about the man you need, then guess what? He’s
already got his mind’s gears grinding up a way to snag you girl! He’s just
patiently seeking the right opportunity.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"><b><span style="color: red;">3. It definitely makes YOU look desperate.</span></b><br />
<br />
Sorry. But in my years of existence I have never seen a woman approach a man
and not seem like one of these 3 things:</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"><br /><b><i>
Aggressive</i></b></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"><b><i><br />
Pushy</i></b></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"><b><i><br />
Desperate</i></b><br />
<br />
Maybe you’ve got the testicular fortitude of a Samantha Jones. Now she could
pull it off. But if your goal is not to wind up doing the horizontal hokey
pokey at the end of the night, then you’re not Sam at all. You’re probably more
of a Miranda Hobbs. An eternal feminist who, at the end of the day, still wants
and needs love just like the rest of us. So, know your role, and leave the
aggression to the men.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"><b><span style="color: red;">4. So, are you the man now?</span></b><br />
<br />
I just want to know, if you made the first move, and you’re satisfied with it,
are you now going to lead him around for the rest of the relationship? Will you
pick him up for the first date? Doubt it. Are you ready to pick up the tab for
the evening? Pull out his chair, etc. Forgive the facetiousness, but I
seriously doubt it. You will soon grow tired of taking the lead and making the
decisions. But hell, you’ve already set the precedent. Gotta be consistent,
right? Is that not what we want from them?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"><b><span style="color: red;">5. Is he that into you?</span></b><br />
<br />
Ladies, if you made the decision for the man, to place yourself in his life,
how do you know if he is even interested? He may be down for the ride
initially, but what will really come from you having initiated the courtship?
You may feel confident and sure of yourself, but at this point, he certainly isn’t.
You know that men can easily become insecure when their man hood is threatened.
And easily confused when you take away what they are most certain of.
Furthermore, if he was not interested in approaching you, then let him stay
that way. Is it really worthwhile to force him into feeling you?<br />
<br />
Do feel free to disagree with me in your comments but ladies and gentlemen, for
women that are seriously considering a relationship with the gentleman they
meet, never ask him out unless all you want is just to flirt.</span><span style="color: #222222; font-family: Arial, sans-serif;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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LADIES; Top 5 reasons you should never ask a man out

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LADIES; 7 types of men who will NEVER MARRY YOU

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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="background-color: white;">If you’re looking for Mr. Right, you may have to
kiss a couple of frogs until you’ll meet that perfect guy that will truly
deserve you, because you should know that there are actually a few types of men
who will never marry you, no matter what you would do. That’s just the way they
are at the moment. Some may change and some will not. But, after all, it’s not
your duty to wait for them until they are ready to take that big step and marry
you. You should definitely avoid these types of men who will never marry you,
because you’ll only waste your time since none of these guys will seal the deal
with you.</span><br />
<br />
<span style="background: white;">In my opinion, this is one of the most common
types of men who will never marry you. He likes to date a lot and when things
become too serious, he gets scared and simply leaves, telling you that he’s not
ready for a serious relationship yet. Well, maybe he will never be. There’s no
point in trying to change him or show him that you are perfect for him. You’ll
only look desperate and you’ll waste all your energy chasing a man that tries
to avoid commitment.</span><br />
<br />
<span style="background: white;"><b><span style="color: red;">2. Mr. “not over his ex”</span></b></span><br />
<br />
<span style="background: white;">This is definitely the type of guy you should
avoid if you’re looking for Mr. Right. This man is still hung up on his
ex-girlfriend even if he won’t admit it. He always talks about her, about her
hobbies, interests or even about the things they did together. This man still
needs some time to heal before starting to date again, so he’s definitely not
ready to marry you.</span><br />
<br />
<span style="background: white;"><b><span style="color: red;">3. Mr. “too focused on his career”</span></b></span><br />
<br />
<span style="background: white;">This guy still tries to figure out what he wants
to do in his career and he’s always focused on everything related to his job.
He never has enough time for the two of you and his work always comes first.
Samantha Daniels, a well-known professional matchmaker and relationship expert,
said that “Men need to be settled in their careers or at least know which
direction they are headed on the career front before they can settle down.” I
couldn’t agree more!</span><br />
<br />
<span style="background: white;"><b><span style="color: red;">4. Mr. “always looking for a bigger better deal”</span></b></span><br />
<br />
<span style="background: white;">With this man you’ll feel absolutely amazing,
except that he will never be ready to commit to you. That’s because, sadly, he
will always look for someone he thinks might be better for him, even though
what you two have is wonderful. He will always keep his options open, wondering
if he will find a better version of you somewhere in this world. I’m sure you
wouldn’t want to be with someone who will never think that you’re good enough
for him.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="background: white;"><b><span style="color: red;">5. Mr. “I always hang out with kids half my age”</span></b></span><br />
<br />
<span style="background: white;">This is the man who is in his late 40s, who has
an impressive career (usually he is an executive of some sort) and while all
his childhood friends are married and settled down, he always hangs out with
kids half his age. He’s always going clubbing and partying, looking to pick up
younger girls. The thing is that he is also lying to himself because when a
20-year-old lady goes out on a date with him, it’s not because she finds him so
interesting or attractive; it’s often because of his money.</span><br />
<br />
<span style="background: white;"><b><span style="color: red;">6. Mr. “I haven’t found the right one”</span></b></span><br />
<br />
<span style="background: white;">This type of man is usually over 50 and has
never been married before because he always says he never found the right lady.
Well, you should start to ask yourself some questions, because if he hasn’t
found the perfect match among the hundreds of girls he has dated before, why
would you be the right one to marry him? Try to be cautious and protect your
feelings!</span><br />
<br />
<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"><b><span style="color: red;">7. Mr. “I only care about my kids”</span></b><br />
<br />
This guy has won your love by showing what a great father he is and has really
impressed you by how much he loves his children. You really admire him for all
the sacrifices he makes in order to see his kids happy and you think that he
might be the perfect guy for you. Don’t get me wrong! There’s nothing wrong
with a responsible father. But when this man focuses too much on his children
and never has enough time for you or your relationship, you should start asking
yourself if he will ever find a place for you in his heart or in his life.</span><span style="color: #222222; font-family: Arial, sans-serif;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"><span class="ilad"><span style="background-color: white;">The list</span></span><span class="apple-converted-space"><span style="background-color: white; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; color: #222222;"> </span><span style="background-color: white; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; color: #222222;">is endless!!! Every man wants a woman he can be proud of and
with whom he can enjoy life with. Men have preference and are very selective
whenever they are making their choice on who to marry. Some would go for<span class="apple-converted-space"> </span></span></span><span class="ilad"><span style="background-color: white; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;"><span id="IL_AD10" style="background-attachment: scroll; background-position: 0% 50%; background-repeat: repeat repeat !important; cursor: pointer !important; float: none;">physical features</span></span></span><span style="background-color: white; color: #222222;">, potentials,
maturity,<span class="apple-converted-space"> </span></span><span class="ilad"><span style="background-color: white; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;"><span id="IL_AD5" style="background-attachment: scroll; background-position: 0% 50%; background-repeat: repeat repeat !important; cursor: pointer !important; float: none;">financial</span></span></span><span class="apple-converted-space"><span style="background-color: white; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; color: #222222;"> </span><span style="background-color: white; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; color: #222222;">prowess or a combination of these. On the contrary, some are
constrained in their preference to exclude highly educated or rich ladies from
their search. Why?</span></span><span style="color: #222222;"><br />
<br />
<span style="background: white;">Why is
these an issue? A lady asked me in dismay? I thought within myself what the
answers could be. I can only conclude that these men that are afraid of
marrying these ladies are myopic in their view. Will you say your daughter or
sister should not further her education or rise to the peak of her career if
she wants for fear of being ostracized in the society? I’m not using this
article to laud women but to open the eyes of some men. Isn’t it a pride for
you if your wife happens to be the CEO of a renowned bank or company?</span><br />
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<span style="background: white;">Men,
there is a way you can treat ‘your’ woman that will make her blossom. Consider
the quoted word. I will share that with you in one of my next post. After I
made my<span class="apple-converted-space"> </span></span></span><span class="ilad"><span style="background-color: white; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;"><span id="IL_AD8" style="background-attachment: scroll; background-position: 0% 50%; background-repeat: repeat repeat !important; cursor: pointer !important; float: none;">observations</span></span></span><span class="apple-converted-space"><span style="background-color: white; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; color: #222222;"> </span><span style="background-color: white; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; color: #222222;">about the reasons why some men do not want to marry the women
that are better than them, I discovered the followings as their problem.</span></span><br />
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<b><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: red;">LOW SELF ESTEEM<span class="apple-converted-space"> </span></span></span></b><br />
<span style="background-color: white; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; color: #222222;">One
personality disorder that most people suffer is low self esteem, hence, men are
not exempted from this. Low self esteem is rating yourself so low while
comparing yourself with another person. If some men could be wise to know what
a woman wants, you will not allow self esteem issue to belittle your real
worth. Marriage is not about<span class="apple-converted-space"> </span></span><span class="ilad"><span style="background-color: white; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;"><span id="IL_AD11" style="background-attachment: scroll; background-position: 0% 50%; background-repeat: repeat repeat !important; cursor: pointer !important; float: none;">comparison</span></span></span><span style="background-color: white; color: #222222;">. If it were to be,
everybody will be looking out for their mate (with the same IQ, temperament,
maturity or understanding) to marry. Men needs to change their perception about
this kind of ladies if love is<span class="apple-converted-space"> </span></span><span class="ilad"><span style="background-color: white; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial;"><span id="IL_AD7" style="background-attachment: scroll; background-position: 0% 50%; background-repeat: repeat repeat !important; cursor: pointer !important; float: none;">the drive</span></span></span><span class="apple-converted-space"><span style="background-color: white; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; color: #222222;"> </span><span style="background-color: white; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; color: #222222;">for the relationship.</span></span><br />
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<b><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: red;">LACK OF UNDERSTANDING</span></span></b><br />
<span style="background-color: white; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; color: #222222;">When a
thing is under-studied, it will be very difficult to handle it properly. One
thing that has been discovered is that men in this category lack the
understanding of how to deal with these kind of ladies. Apart from the fact
that some of them could be disrespectful or proud, women can easily be handled
if you deal with them in knowledge. What makes a man a player? His ability to
deceitfully play with the life of a woman. But if a woman is well studied and
understood properly, there is a way to love her and she will worship you
irrespective of her achievements or status.</span><br />
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<b><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: red;">FEAR</span></span></b><br />
<span style="background-color: white; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; color: #222222;">A key
factor that prevents men from marrying educated/rich ladies is fear. How will I
cope with her? How can I fit into her life and status? Many ‘how’ are the
questions most men ask themselves. If your main reason for marrying her is
‘love’, I mean true love; not for her money or status, I see no reason why you
should be afraid of asking her hand in marriage. A lot of men are afraid
because they felt they will be too expensive to manage. Money does not make a
good marriage but genuine love and a handful of money.</span><br />
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<b><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: red;">SOCIETAL BELIEF</span></span></b><br />
<span style="background-color: white; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; color: #222222;">There
are some things that lack an element of truth which most people do accept as
true. Of such is that wealthy or educated ladies cannot make a good wife or
better mothers. Men are the carrier of this belief, hence it is untrue. When a
woman makes up her mind to be good, nothing can change that decision except she
is treated harshly. Do not join the society to spread this unbiased belief
about women.</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; color: #222222;">One thing
I have realized is that God made a woman’s affection to be directed towards a
man. Hence it is understanding that will make a man identify what his wife
needs. However, it is how knowledgeable a man is that will determine how he
lives with her. Men needs to change their perception about the status of the
woman they want to marry. If genuine love is<span class="apple-converted-space"> </span>the drive<span class="apple-converted-space"> for the relationship, there’s a way
you can live with her that will make her respect you. However, some women lacks
respect and are proud when they have more.</span></span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; color: #222222;">If an
educated/richer woman what comes your way, do not allow fear, societal belief,
low self esteem or lack of understanding make you to loose her. Genuine love
and patience is the secret to a woman’s heart. Give her these and she will
naturally respect and forever submit to your lordship regardless of her status.
But be ready to treat her right. Moreover, you two must be meant for each
other. You cannot expect a woman that does not love you or pretends to love you
to make a good wife even if she’s educated/rich. Awake the man in you. Don’t be
intimidated.</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; color: #222222;">Do you
agree or disagree? Share your views below.</span></span>

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To say that women are like flowers that add beauty to any hangout could be an understatement. At least in my opinion, they make any hangout lively and fun-at least in my generation’s view of fun. Guys; whether married, single, searching and abstaining cannot talk about any social event and skip the topic of women in attendance. But on the other hand women hold equal powers to spoil an event just as they do in making it lively. A few men highlight the different main ways women disappoint them when they go out partying.</div>
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<strong style="line-height: inherit;">Poor eating and drinking habits </strong><br style="line-height: inherit;" />No offence; but a big percentage of women tend to believe in testing something for the first time when out on a date with a man. Some women ask for things on a menu without any knowledge of what the drink or food looks or tastes like. Joccy one lady,said women ask for expensive drinks and eats in a bid to determine the depth of a man’s wallet. He agrees that sometimes women seize the opportunity to test expensive drinks that they cannot afford and out of ignorance.</div>
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<strong style="line-height: inherit;">Stale dancing strokes </strong><br style="line-height: inherit;" />Ben, a Disc jockey , posed a very nice question; “Honestly, ladies out there, isn’t there any dance strokes other than wiggling your waists, move down and moving up very fast while pointing your bottoms?”</div>
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Whether it’s a Fally Ipupa’s Jukpa hit, LMFAO’s Party Rock Anthem, Elephant Man’s Sweep or Flavor’s Ashawo, the women simply wiggle their waists up and down. “The only time they change strokes is when they play bend over; and they still do the same, they turn their behinds and shake them,” Ben added.<br style="line-height: inherit;" /><strong style="line-height: inherit;">Over Demanding </strong><br style="line-height: inherit;" />Moses, a fellow scribe met a high school girlfriend in Guvnor the other day. During their conversation Moses learnt that Rita didn’t have a car, neither did he. However when it was time to leave, Rita demanded that Moses pays for a cab to take her to Seeta; it was charging Shs 2,000. Moses didn’t have the money but Rita insisted a cab was the only means she could get home. Moses suggested that Rita uses a commuter taxi or a boda boda but Rita was not about to buy any of Moses’ “crap.” To Moses’ shock, Rita walked away in protest and jumped on a boda boda and left.</div>
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<strong style="line-height: inherit;">Make up and perfumes</strong><br style="line-height: inherit;" />Lydia, a model does feel our plight as men. “I go out quite often and every single time I pity a man dancing with some chic because of the way she smells,” Lydia said adding there are women who wear cheap perfumes or totally uncoordinated make-up.” And Lydia is not alone, several girls responded in line with most men about makeup and perfumes. Farouk, a city lawyer defined women who don’t use any form of deodorants as “horrible!” “A woman sat next to me during a comedy night in silk and I could barely laugh. I felt like offering her my deodorant but I had parked quite far.” Farouk says he made sure he became friends with the woman whom he refuses to disclose the name; “I sent her a deodorant as my first present to her the next day.”</div>
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<strong style="line-height: inherit;">Dress code </strong><br style="line-height: inherit;" />Yes most women try to dress to impress whenever they’re going out, but certainly fall short when it comes to fashion. Farouk, has a problem with women donning on similar dresses; “you wonder if it’s some uniform of sorts.” On the other hand, women have now shifted from dressing skimpily to displaying under garments. “If it’s the trend, God forbid, but it’s quite demeaning!”<br style="line-height: inherit;" />Lastly, but not least, was a complaint from Ben, the Dj who called on women to stop abusing leggings. “Women should know which shape deserves to wear leggings without anything. The shape around the hips and sometimes the legs should be critically analyzed before one puts on leggings,” Ben said before adding, “You see a woman in leggings and feel disgusted!”<br style="line-height: inherit;" />Bottom line, with a few of these aspects put into serious consideration by all women out there, hanging out with you will always be a dream come true.</div>
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Ladies only...Reasons why you are not getting married

To say that women are like flowers that add beauty to any hangout could be an understatement. At least in my opinion, they make any hang...