5 REASONS WHY WOMEN FAKE 0RGA'SM-VIDEO

Women fake org''asms, unfortunately for everyone involved. But what are the REAL reasons they do it? John and Lissette reveal why on Humpology 101!<br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEglAalMUngZ9Wzxs1HRTQQc_OM2GtxAalFNOW8vkA7dIyMuVyZP517Phd2CKoxXqMmVRygxryKa8c155ur0LQRnNSMXNUZgnuCR5SPKRAw-C-Xmk1hP4XTvdMUDb6NnePkQLZk-XmAToIUF/s1600/tupu+4.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="240" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEglAalMUngZ9Wzxs1HRTQQc_OM2GtxAalFNOW8vkA7dIyMuVyZP517Phd2CKoxXqMmVRygxryKa8c155ur0LQRnNSMXNUZgnuCR5SPKRAw-C-Xmk1hP4XTvdMUDb6NnePkQLZk-XmAToIUF/s1600/tupu+4.jpg" width="320" /></a></div><br /><br />Have you ever fa'ked an or'ga'sm, or been with a woman who has? Why do you think women do it? Is it detrimental to your se'x life in the long run? Let us know in the comments!<br />And don't forget guys, if you like this BLOG Share it with your friends to show your support - It really helps us out! See you next time!<br /><br />****************************************­­*************<br /><br /><iframe allowfullscreen="allowfullscreen" frameborder="0" height="360" src="//www.youtube.com/embed/UyGudt5Nsd8" width="640"></iframe>

5 REASONS WHY WOMEN FAKE 0RGA'SM-VIDEO

Women fake org''asms, unfortunately for everyone involved. But what are the REAL reasons they do it? John and Lissette reveal why on...

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SEDUCTION:MY SECRET AFFAIR WITH MY COLLEAGUE-TRUE STORY-18+

<br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-3a_2csq8MRc/U7jBy-nMEHI/AAAAAAAADKU/KvZKBJftVzc/s1600/download+(28).jpeg"><img alt="" border="0" src="https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-3a_2csq8MRc/U7jBy-nMEHI/AAAAAAAADKU/KvZKBJftVzc/s1600/download+(28).jpeg&container=blogger&gadget=a&rewriteMime=image%2F*" /></a><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">SEDUCTION:MY SECRET AFFAIR WITH MY COLLEAGUE</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">Tope works down the hall from me, and I'd started fantasizing about her about five minutes after she joined our agency a few months ago. </span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">The sleeveless blouses and tailored slacks she wore to work were just the start of her appeal. Her brea'sts looked full and heavy, and no other mother of three - including my wife - ever had a tighter looking as's. She had a tiny, barely noticeable scar at the corner of her lip that made her mouth look like it was begging to be kissed. She wore her dark hair pulled back in a ponytail, and sometimes a stray lock would fall across her forehead, and it was all you could do not to reach up and brush it back for her.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;"> </span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">After a while, I think she noticed that I always got up immediately, stood in my doorway and watched that lovely behind of hers as she moved briskly down the hall. </span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">In any event, even if she didn't consciously notice, I began to realize that she made a point of pausing to speaking to the intern just outside my door whenever she walked by.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">Alerted to Tope's presence, I would station myself just inside my own doorway to catch a glimpse. More and more often, she would look up and give me the tiniest of smiles before breezing along her way.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">Was I imagining things, or did she seem to move a little more languorously and sensually these days? Was there a little extra sway in those hi'ps meant for me?</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">This went on for several weeks, until one fateful office happy hour. It's amazing how a couple of drinks can loosen someone up and make them a little forgetful about certain obligations.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">Between us, Tope and I had 18 years of marriage under our belts. Well, 23 if you counted my first one to go with the five years I had this go 'round. I also had two stepchildren and a three-year-old daughter to complete the package. Tope was working on a lucky 13 years with an English professor in Lagos state university, and when you entered her office; pictures of her three girls adorned the wall behind her desk. </span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">Even so, with the subtle attention we'd been giving each other already, it was a short trip to outright flirting when bourbon fever kicked in.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjT5ByvU7EXVrMgjG_OAKs5_QzYbW3qk6LKS8unq6zd5ISSpFmc3yqwlWA8RYy4igSVTsSLDA46Xfm81KDKHigSKnEfFJYFq3OqRtrIwA7FnZUcR15ki624bsLq_Z2DJMERjp40IJXJNU4/s1600/les3.jpeg"><img alt="" border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjT5ByvU7EXVrMgjG_OAKs5_QzYbW3qk6LKS8unq6zd5ISSpFmc3yqwlWA8RYy4igSVTsSLDA46Xfm81KDKHigSKnEfFJYFq3OqRtrIwA7FnZUcR15ki624bsLq_Z2DJMERjp40IJXJNU4/s1600/les3.jpeg" /></a><span style="color: #000000;"> </span><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">Of course, the chances of spontaneous er'otic combustion aren't real high on a Tuesday night when there are kids and homework waiting at home.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">The next morning, though, the flirting continued, and over the last few weeks, it's proceeded from there. From glances full of active curiosity, to standing a bit too close in the elevator, to letting our arms very, very carefully brush together while looking over a marketing plan draft, there's been a slow burn that's enjoyable just for its own sake.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">At the same time, our conversation has gone from polite hellos to leaning into each other's offices for a few minutes of casual conversation. </span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">When it was clear that neither of us was likely to file a se'xual harassment suit against the other, a few double entendres found their way into our interactions.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><img alt="" border="0" src="https://2.bp.blogspot.com/-KE_20yLzxcg/U7jB2vVm45I/AAAAAAAADKc/mThmeYmUf8k/s1600/5-320x240.jpg" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">Two weeks ago, things escalated a little more. </span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">I'm notorious for my potty mouth. Other work settings are different, I know, but in the loose, creative atmosphere of an advertising agency, you can get away with a lot, and I admit to being downright vulgar at times. </span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">Several of my co-workers credit me with the invention of the term "fu'cking fu'cker," but I'm pretty sure I actually heard it somewhere else first. That notwithstanding, I don't hesitate to let a "Jesus-fu'cking-Christ, that's the stupidest motherfu'cking-ass'hole-dum'bass-motherfuc'ker I've ever met," fly if the occasion warrants it.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">To my delight, I found out that Tope was something of an artist in profanity herself. A tirade like the above had exploded in conference room full of equally irate copywriters, art directors and producers when our latest pitch to a floundering client had been shot down. It continued with just Tope and I in my office as we went back to the brainstorming board. Since we were both still cussing up a storm, Tope closed the door behind us and flopped down in my guest chair.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"Tope, I have to tell you, that kind of talk is frankly quite shocking," I said in mock indignation.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"Stuff it, fucker, I know it turns you on," she retorted, we both broke out in giggles worthy of my thirteen-year-old stepdaughter and friends.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"Turned on? I'm turned on, she says, and meanwhile I see her ni'pples poking through her shirt like a couple of walnuts," I snickered.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"You don't want to go bringing up nuts of any sort, buster, with that bulge staring me in the face," she snorted, pointing at the very visible hard-on that was, in fact, at her eye level as I leaned back against my desk.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">We kept this up playfully for a few more minutes before actually getting back to work, but from that moment on, dirty talk between - in private, via text message, on the phone, even late at night at home through instant messaging - is not only tolerated, it's encouraged and one-upped and then pushed some more.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">All that being said, Tope's been rather adamant that flirting, talking dirty and sharing fantasies is as far as this is going. That's been fine by me - one divorce is enough to last me a lifetime. More than anything, we both admit, our little oral affair has added fuel to pretty damn fiery se'x lives at home. </span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">Most guys don't even count it as officially getting laid until you've told your buddy about it and the fact that my buddy was now a gorgeous 36-year-old wife and mother with a body like co-ed, an intellect like a physics professor and a a mouth like a sailor was just icing on the cake. I told Tope about how good my wife looked when she suc'ked my co'ck in the shower the other morning; she told me riding her husband's face and licking her own juices off his chin and forehead; she picked out lingerie for my wife on Victoria's Secret online, and dictated more and more of the outrageous text messages she was sending to her husband while he worked.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">With that in mind, I picked up the phone just after lunch this afternoon and dialed Tope's extension.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"What now," she answered huffily and then chuckled. "What's going through that dirty mind of yours, bad boy?"</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"Not nearly what I wish was going through my pa'nts - namely your hands," I said.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"That's a stretch even for you, darling. We're going to have work on your spontaneous se'xy replies," she said.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"Maybe so," I replied. "But the reason I really called is to find out what your plans are to shock He-Who-Shall-Not-Be-Named later?"</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"Lingerie."</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"Something new?" I asked, perking up.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"Something he hasn't seen yet," said Tope.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"And, much to my chagrin, neither have I," I sighed.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">This got another chuckle.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"And you won't anytime soon," said my partner in witty repartee.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"Soon? That implies that at some point, your pa'nties will be mine!"</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"Dream on, lover," she replied.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"So just what are you going to do with this lingerie for the lucky boy?"</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"Before he leaves for his conference tomorrow, I'm going to put my se'xiest pan'ties in his briefcase..."</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">This elicited the usual intelligent reply from me: "Mmmmm."</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"...and when he lands in Abuja, his Blackberry will chirp right away with the message that says I'm not going to wear any until he gets back next week - but that I packed a few dirty ones in his suitcase for him to stroke his co'ck with."</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"I like it, Tope."</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"Knew you would, bad boy, just like my husband will," Tope said, and I could hear the smile in her voice. "I especially like the thought that after that he'll have to deal with a hard-on in a room full of other academias for the rest of the day."</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"I have a hard-on-in-the-office problem myself," I told her.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"Why's that," she said, almost shyly. "Is there a particular workmate who causes it?"</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"Just some new bimbo," I laughed.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"Bimbo! That's it, I'm hanging up." But she didn't and then laughed with me.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"Send him a text now. Tell him you're rubbing yourself under your desk."</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"I like it. Then what?"</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"Imagine me there...under your desk...touching and lic'king."</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"You're so naughty," but I knew she'd be doing it soon.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"I try to be," I said smarmily.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"It's working."</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"Good. When you have the picture in your mind, reach down under your desk. Rub yourself through your clothes."</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">I heard her su'ck in her breath sharply, and I knew she'd started.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"I'm walking down," I said, and hung up before she could protest.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">By the time I got to her office, she'd zipped up and, though looking a bit flushed, was composed and professional.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">She grinned and told me to close the door.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"Yes, madam."</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">She suddenly looked a little serious.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"Titilayo or someone is going to catch us if we keep this up," she said.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"Caught at what?" I smiled and crossed to her desk. Resting on the edge, my crotch was just a couple of feet from her face as she remained seated.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"What am I going to do with you," she grinned.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"Whatever you can think of," I said, wiggling my eyebrows in my lousy coc''ky impression.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"That sounds like it might be fun," she said.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"Could be very fun," I said, and offered her my hand.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">She took it and stood, and with my knees parted slightly she had no choice but to position herself between them. She did, however, remain a good three feet away.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"But no kissing," I chuckled, repeating the first law she laid down to me.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"You like kisses." It was a statement, not a question, and I saw something in her eyes that hadn't been there before.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"Yes, I do, Tope. Do you like kisses?"</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"Yes," she said, very quietly, dropping her gaze from mine.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">Taking a chance, I cupped her face and turned it upward, at the same time pulling her forward.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"What are we up to, Tope?"</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"Well, I'm trying to get out of here to meet my kids before the school bus dumps them by the front door," she said, still not pulling away.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">I leaned in and whispered in her hear, knowing my breath was tickling her.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"Ahhh, I see. How about a kiss before you go?" </span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">She hesitated for a second, and then thrilled me by saying it.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"Okay - one kiss."</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">I wrapped my arms around her and pulled her tight enough for her to feel how hard I was.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"That feels nice," Tope whispered.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"So will this," and I began to kiss her neck, her ears, her throat. I ran my hands up and down her back.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">Her lips parted slightly, but before she could speak, I pulled her even tighter and covered her mouth with mine.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">She shivered and began to rock slightly against my ere'ction. She broke the kiss, but only to nib'''ble my neck and earlobe, and I squeezed and kneaded the delectable as that had first caught my eye.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">Our mouths collided again in a hungry, open-mouth kiss. Our tongues were dueling, sliding in and out of each other's mouths, our breath ragged and coming in gasps.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">With one hand still caressing her as's, I tangled the other in her hair. It's a tired cliche, but I locked onto her mouth like a drowning man holds on to a life preserver.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"I'm in trouble - I'm on fire," Tope whispered fiercely.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"And you have to go," I said and again covered her mouth with mine to block her answer.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">The kiss lingered, but when it broke we were both smiling.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"Go, Tope," I said. "Be good."</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"How?" She laughed and pushed me away. </span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">She pulled me close again, though, and I could see fire in her eyes as she stared up at me. </span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"See you tomorrow, Tope."</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"I know - and that's the problem. I'll be stuck here playing teasing games with you, and I won't be getting any at home for the next seven days." But she was still smiling as she watched me back toward the door and out of her office.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">The real problem, though, was the call I got when I settled back in behind my desk. My wife's mobile came up on the caller ID.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"Hey, babe, what's up," I answered.</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">"Just wanted to remind you that I'm taking the kids to the beach for the weekend tomorrow."</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">That's when it hit me. Tope's husband gone for a week. Me alone for the weekend - because Tope and I were working this weekend. With probably no one else in the office...</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">COMMENT BELOW FOR MORE...</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">The End.</span><br /><br /><!-- Blogger automated replacement: "https://images-blogger-opensocial.googleusercontent.com/gadgets/proxy?url=http%3A%2F%2F3.bp.blogspot.com%2F-3a_2csq8MRc%2FU7jBy-nMEHI%2FAAAAAAAADKU%2FKvZKBJftVzc%2Fs1600%2Fdownload%2B" with "https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-3a_2csq8MRc/U7jBy-nMEHI/AAAAAAAADKU/KvZKBJftVzc/s1600/download+" --><!-- Blogger automated replacement: "https://images-blogger-opensocial.googleusercontent.com/gadgets/proxy?url=http%3A%2F%2F2.bp.blogspot.com%2F-KE_20yLzxcg%2FU7jB2vVm45I%2FAAAAAAAADKc%2FmThmeYmUf8k%2Fs1600%2F5-320x240.jpg&container=blogger&gadget=a&rewriteMime=image%2F*" with "https://2.bp.blogspot.com/-KE_20yLzxcg/U7jB2vVm45I/AAAAAAAADKc/mThmeYmUf8k/s1600/5-320x240.jpg" -->

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SEDUCTION:MY SECRET AFFAIR WITH MY COLLEAGUE Tope works down the hall from me, and I'd started fantasizing about her about five minutes ...

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5 Horrifying Ways an Ex Can Ruin Your Life With Nu'de Photos

<br style="color: #000000;" /><a href="http://i.crackedcdn.com/phpimages/article/5/3/9/251539.jpg?v=1"><img alt="" border="0" src="http://i.crackedcdn.com/phpimages/article/5/3/9/251539.jpg?v=1" /></a><br/><br/><span style="color: #000000;">Horrifying Ways an Ex Can Ruin Your Life With Nu'de Photos</span><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><br style="color: #000000;" /><span style="color: #000000;">Professor Annmarie Chiarini, Anisha Vora, and Dr. Holly Jacobs have a few things in common: They've all had exp'licit photos of themselves shared online, and they've all decided to do something about it. In August of 2012, Jacobs started </span><a href="http://www.endrevengeporn.org/">EndRevengePor'n.org</a><span style="color: #000000;"> and quickly found out that the concept of por'nography as vengeance is even stranger than it sounds when we type it out like that. Working with Vora and Chiarini, she 'discovered that ...</span><br/><div style="color: #000000;"><br/>#5. Everyone Will Blame You<br/><br/><img alt="" src="http://i.crackedcdn.com/phpimages/article/5/4/7/251547_v1.jpg" />NatasaMandic/iStock/Getty Images<br/><br/>If you see a picture of a na'ked person online, the default assumption is that they put it there themselves, because we want to believe that the world is a beautiful place full of consensual gen'italia. Of course, it's a bummer if your boss finds those pictures, because most workplaces frown on that sort of thing. When Jacobs first heard from human resources at her school, they made the default assumption and came after her: "They were pursuing it so much and asking so many questions insinuating that I was doing this myself ... I legally changed my name." To clarify, the problem isn't that a school was concerned that their employee was being se'xually inappropriate with their students -- they of course need to watch out for that sh'it (it's only charming when Indiana Jones does it). The problem is that, after it became apparent that this was an attack on one of their teachers, the school's very first reaction was to put as much distance between them as possible. It's virtually impossible to convince people that it's not somehow your fault.<br/><br/><img alt="" src="http://i.crackedcdn.com/phpimages/article/5/5/1/251551_v1.jpg" /></div><br/><div style="color: #000000;">Pixland/Pixland/Getty Images<br/>"If you didn't want this to happen, then why are you always na'ked under your clothes?"<br/><br/>One revenge po'rn site was run by a single mother who posted the pictures jilted wives sent her of their husbands' mistresses. She of course did nothing to verify these stories or identities before posting na'ked photos of strangers, and when questioned about the lives she was affecting, she insisted that women "<a href="http://america.aljazeera.com/watch/shows/america-tonight/america-tonight-blog/2013/12/12/meet-the-suburbanmomwhorunsarevengepornsite.html">love the attention</a>." Because as we all know, there's no such thing as bad attention -- even when it's technically a form of se'xual abuse that essentially ruins your public life, at least somebody thought nice things about your but't.<br/><br/><img alt="" src="http://i.crackedcdn.com/phpimages/article/5/5/3/251553_v1.jpg" /></div><br/><div style="color: #000000;">Medioimages/Photodisc/Photodisc/Getty Images<br/>"COXcum469 doesn't throw praise lightly. You should be honored."<br/><br/>There's some kind of general assumption that, once you send nu'des to somebody, the picture is theirs to do with as they please. But the gift of an intimate photo doesn't automatically include permission to plaster that photo on the Internet, any more than telling someone where you hide your spare key so they can feed your cats gives them permission to post that information on Craigslist under the title "FREE CAT MEAT."</div><br/><div style="color: #000000;"></div><br/><div style="color: #000000;"><br/>#4. You'll Mostly Hear: "Well, You Shouldn't Have Sent the Pictures in the First Place!"<br/><br/><img alt="" src="http://i.crackedcdn.com/phpimages/article/5/4/1/251541.jpg?v=1" />pcruciatti/iStock/Getty Images<br/><br/>Some people argue that this whole issue comes down to women not being careful enough online. (Social Justice Jeff Foxworthy Says: "If you generally catch yourself pointing fingers at the victim when sh'it goes down, you might be an as'shole.") That's flawed logic, but more importantly, it's not often true: Vora's photos were shared by a family friend she'd known since sixth grade, and Jacobs' were posted by an ex after their mutual breakup. In some cases, the photos weren't shared at all; many women have simply <a href="http://www.xojane.com/it-happened-to-me/charlotte-laws-hunter-moore-erin-brockovich-revenge-porn">had their emails hacked</a>.<br/><br/><img alt="" src="http://i.crackedcdn.com/phpimages/article/5/5/5/251555_v1.jpg" /></div><br/><div style="color: #000000;">Jonathan Leibson/Getty Images Entertainment/Getty Images<br/>And if you're lucky enough to have the <a href="http://www.wired.com/threatlevel/2012/12/scarlett-johansson-hacker/">resources of Scarlett Johansson</a>, you might be able to do something about it.<br/><br/>And this kind of experience isn't limited to carefree teenage girls who don't know any better: Chiarini was a 39-year-old college professor, and Jacobs has "Dr." right there in her name -- not generally a title you see on dumb teenagers outside of the 1980s rap scene. Also remember that when they shared their pictures, "revenge por'n" <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/-annmarie-chiarini/revenge-porn_b_4183770.html">wasn't even a term yet</a>. You can't take precautions against something you don't know exists, and they were no more prepared for the revenge por'n experience than you are for the Great High-Fructose Corn Syrup Tsunami of 2016.<br/>#3. It Goes Way Beyond Sharing Pictures<br/><br/><img alt="" src="http://i.crackedcdn.com/phpimages/article/5/4/3/251543_v1.jpg" />Alessandro de Leo/iStock/Getty Images<br/><br/>Maybe you're thinking that this whole thing is getting blown out of proportion. Sure, it's a massive violation, but the Internet is nothing if not massive and violating. What are the odds of someone you know actually recognizing you, let alone bringing enough attention to affect your life?<br/><br/><img alt="" src="http://i.crackedcdn.com/phpimages/article/5/5/7/251557_v1.jpg" /></div><br/><div style="color: #000000;">IuriiSokolov/iStock/Getty Images<br/>"Of course I knew it was you. How many other people have a birthmark of Oklahoma?"<br/><br/>Pretty good, it turns out, since that's exactly what most revenge po'rn revolves around. Jacobs' explicit video was titled "[University Name] Professor Masturbates for Her Students," because her ex specifically wanted to frame the video in a way that portrayed her as a se'xual predator. This is where the whole "revenge" aspect comes into play. Chiarini's and Vora's experiences were different, but no less terrifying: In both cases, their exes created online profiles about them, complete with their addresses and phone numbers, and actively messaged strangers, propositioning them for s'ex. Random Internet dudes started showing up at Vora's house asking to see her, or would wait by her door to "surprise" her when she came home from school. "The cops said I could call them if it happens again," she said, "But how does that help? ... 'Sorry, sir, please don't ra'pe me for five minutes while I dial 911'?"<br/><br/><img alt="" src="http://i.crackedcdn.com/phpimages/article/5/5/9/251559_v1.jpg" /></div><br/><div style="color: #000000;"></div><br/><div style="color: #000000;">Maxim Kostenko/iStock/Getty Images<br/>"Sure, you can use my phone after I finish posting your address on r/serialkillers."<br/><br/>It may be ridiculous, but that's not hyperbole -- Vora has good reason to be freaked out. "It surprises me how incredibly angry this topic makes men," Chiarini told us. "I've received ra'pe threats and have been told 'you deserve to suffer' -- it's anger, like I did something personally to these men." This isn't shiny happy fun po'rn. This is revenge po'rn, and it's not about er'oticism; it's about, well, revenge -- and the people seeking it often aren't even sure what they want revenge for. The men violently reacting to Chiarini were just random Internet users, not her ex. Not her employers. Not people she knew at all. They had no personal stake in her affairs whatsoever, but they were still pissed at something and coming after her. We're not sure if it's better or worse that the vengeance-seeking sociopaths showing up at your door expecting s'ex are also "confused" and "directionless," but it gets worse, because ...<br/><br/><br/>#2. The Law Usually Can't Protect You<br/><br/><img alt="" src="http://i.crackedcdn.com/phpimages/article/5/4/5/251545_v1.jpg" />tomloel/iStock/Getty Images<br/><br/>When Chiarini first went to the police about her ex sharing her photos, the first question they asked was how old she'd been when the pictures were taken. She answered that she was over 18 at the time, so the next question they asked was "Who's next in line?" See, despite the fact that he had done virtually everything in his power to destroy her life and was apparently succeeding, Chiarini's ex hadn't actually broken a law yet. In many states, it's not even a crime to share private, compromising photos of somebody for the express purpose of harming them.<br/><br/><img alt="" src="http://i.crackedcdn.com/phpimages/article/5/6/1/251561_v1.jpg" /></div><br/><div style="color: #000000;">Comstock/Stockbyte/Getty Images<br/>If this kind of sounds like the plot for a bad Lifetime movie, that's <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reckless_Behavior:_Caught_on_Tape">because it is</a>.<br/><br/>Vora had more luck: Because her state is one of the few where revenge po'rn is illegal, she could get her ex arrested on domestic violence charges. This solved all of her problems ... except for the biggest one: The fact that her pictures were still on the Internet. Taking something down from the Internet, even if it's illegal, is like bailing out the ocean with a teacup. Just ask the RIAA. To this day, Vora still gets creepy pictures in her inbox (and much, much more worryingly, sometimes on her doorstep), signed by strangers saying they are "just returning the favor."<br/><br/><img alt="" src="http://i.crackedcdn.com/phpimages/article/5/6/3/251563_v1.jpg" /></div><br/><div style="color: #000000;"></div><br/><div style="color: #000000;">maxmihai/iStock/Getty Images<br/>"At least it's in ink this time."<br/><br/>Don't jump all over the cops for this one, though: Writing anti-revenge-po'rn laws is tough. If you make it illegal for the person who took a photo to publish it without getting the subject's permission, then you're not protecting people who share nu'de selfies, which makes up the majority of revenge po'rn photos. And the laws won't get more specific until people decide that someone who takes a nu'de picture of themselves still deserves protection. Silly lawmakers -- na'ked people are clearly very vulnerable. They need protection the most.<br/><br/>But don't get too disheartened yet, because ...</div><br/><div style="color: #000000;"></div><br/><div style="color: #000000;"><br/>#1. Things Are Changing for the Better<br/><br/><img alt="" src="http://i.crackedcdn.com/phpimages/article/5/4/9/251549_v1.jpg" />Thomas Northcut/Digital Vision/Getty Images<br/><br/>End Revenge Por'n has made an incredible amount of progress getting laws passed in a short amount of time. "We're working on at least a dozen state bills and a federal bill right now," Jacobs told us, "and it's only been 16 months!" That's a long time to be na'ked and helpless, but in congressional terms, it's practically time travel. Luckily, others are helping fill the gaps:<br/><br/>James McGibney, a former Marine who runs Bullyville.com, sued a prominent revenge po'rn site owner for $250,000 (with daily compounding interest, which is the worst kind of interest), for accusing McGibney of being a pedophile and threatening his wife. "There's no point in having pissing matches online. We look at everything from a legal scenario," McGibney told us. "Word gets out that if you own a revenge po'rn site, Bullyville will come after you. And they have to think, 'Is it worth it ... when this is coming?'"<br/><br/><img alt="" src="http://i.crackedcdn.com/phpimages/article/5/6/5/251565_v1.jpg" /></div><br/><div style="color: #000000;">Jupiterimages/BananaStock/Getty Images<br/>Spoiler: Nope.<br/><br/>Adam Steinbaugh, a legal blogger, helped expose an extortion scam with the website IsAnybodyDown.com: "It was basically telling people 'if you don't want to be featured on our website, contact this attorney' ... turns out it's the same person who runs the website." He also works with PayPal to get revenge po'rn site owners' accounts shut down, and once all the money goes out of being a living stain on the under'wear of humanity, most people find a different career path. On Twitter, he helps victims get in contact with lawyers who can help them with their specific case, making him the owner of perhaps the first and only practical Twitter account in history.<br/><br/>They're all learning something: When you make the Internet understand that there are real people behind the pics, most users don't like revenge por'n. "When I first started End Revenge Po'rn, and I would post on blogs and news sites about it, the response was 100 percent negative," said Jacobs. "Now, it's very seldom that we get a negative response. Once I started putting a face and a personal experience on this, people started thinking, 'I don't care if trolls speak against me. What this girl went through is terrible, and what she's doing is amazing, and someone needs to help her.'"<br/><br/><img alt="" src="http://i.crackedcdn.com/phpimages/article/5/6/7/251567_v1.jpg" /></div><br/><div style="color: #000000;">monkeybusinessimages/iStock/Getty Images<br/>Good job, humanity!<br/><br/></div>

5 Horrifying Ways an Ex Can Ruin Your Life With Nu'de Photos

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5 Ways To Please Women In Bed

<div class="singlepost_cat" style="color: #000000;">Are You Part Of the 30% Of Men Who Don’t Know The 5 Ways To Please Women In Bed? Check Out This Survey To Find Out<a href="http://cdn.brobible.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/shutterstock_123846241.jpg" style="font-weight: bold; color: #d30001;"><img alt="shutterstock_123846241" class="alignnone wp-image-20048403 lh_lazyimg" height="350" src="http://www.brobible.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/shutterstock_123846241.jpg" width="650" /></a></div><br/><div id="post-content" class="single-content" style="color: #222222;"><br/><br/>According to a recent survey done by <a href="http://www.promescent.com/">Promescent</a>, 40% of women achieve org'asm less than HALF of the times they have se'x, and another 20% don’t feel comfortable discussing their se'xual desires with their male partners. Not only that, but more than half of women also say that their partners bust within 5 minutes, and another 23% are done in two minutes. This is great news for you if you last at least two minutes and one second, since that makes you officially better than the bottom of the barrel. As for the guys who last 5 minutes? Don’t get too excited. It takes most women about 17 minutes to reach org'asm, so whether you’re in the 5 minute club or the 2 minute club, you both still suck.<br/><br/>For those of you who are in that 30% of men who aren’t sure how to fix these issues and please your lady at the same time, here’s the 5 tips after consulting Dr. Emily Moore, the #1 se'x expert from DatingAdvice.com.<br/><blockquote><strong>1. Communication is lubrication</strong>: If you don’t learn to communicate with your partner about your se'x life, you won’t be able to have a long term, fulfilling se'x life. Many couples have no problem communicating with each other, except when it comes to se'x. Whether you’ve been together for 6 months or 6 years, talking about your se'x is the only way you’re going to have a sustainable se'x life and get exactly what you want in bed.</blockquote><br/><em>You’ve evolved to have vocal chords, feel free to use them at some point.</em><br/><blockquote><strong>2. Ask and you shall receive</strong>: Be clear, honest and open about your desires and what you like and dislike about your se'x life. If you don’t know how to please your partner ask what she likes, what she fantasizes about and if she doesn’t know, then try to figure it out together: buy some toys, read ero'tica or talk about your favorite se'xual memories together. This will lead you to figuring out more about what turns each other on.</blockquote><br/><em>While we all wish we had telepathic powers that let us read minds like Professor X, we don’t. So instead of staring at her forehead really intently and trying to guess what she’s thinking, you’re probably better off just asking.</em><br/><blockquote><strong>3. Never stop experimenting</strong>: Keep experimenting with new techniques and touches because the more aro'used a woman gets, the more her sensitivity level rises. Don’t stop at one point on her body because she seems to be enjoying it. Make a round of visits to her most sensitive spots regularly and you’ll be sure to please her all over her body.</blockquote><br/><em>You know that thing where you hear a new song and you listen to it to the point that you hate it? Same thing.</em><br/><blockquote><strong>4. Slow down</strong>: Many men rush through se'x, so I always tell them to go three times slower than they think they should. That goes for kissing, touching and even when she’s about to get clim'ax. The more you bring her to point of heightened aro'usal, and then slow down, the more turned on she will be. When she can’t anticipate your next move, she’ll be even more ar'oused and ready to explode.</blockquote><br/><em>Yo you ain’t Ricky Bobby and this isn’t NASCAR. Wanting to go fast isn’t gonna get you shit.</em><br/><blockquote><strong>5. Keep on kissing</strong>: In relationships, kissing is often the first thing that falls by the wayside. Men get in the habit of rushing right to inter'course. However for'eplay, like kissing, is a requirement, not a suggestion. Women get turned on by passionate kissing so if you feel she’s not turned on or is losing interest, just play with kissing her in different ways, moving your tongue and altering the speed and places you kiss her. Hint: the neck is a highly ero'genous yet often ignored spot on a woman’s body.</blockquote><br/><em>If you try to stick it in there without any effort on your part, your hot dog’s gonna have a dry and crusty bun to sit in. Not fun.</em><br/><br/>In other words, try to take into consideration HER needs and not just your own, even though we all know it’s so much easier to just pump and dump. Don’t be a pumper and dumper.<br/><br/></div>

5 Ways To Please Women In Bed

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How To Seduce Her In Ten Minutes (Guys, Step Up Your Game!!)

<p style="color: #404040;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong style="font-style: inherit;">Your Approach</strong></span></p><br/><br/><div id="content1" style="color: #404040;"><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">Her brain quickly vets your height and facial symmetry the moment you meet. Now convince her of your character. Approach confidently; don’t pretend to bump into her. Men tend to talk to each other at angles to avoid confrontation. But women face each other head-on and maintain eye contact.</span></p><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong style="font-style: inherit;">Your Introduction</strong></span></p><br/><br/><div id="content1" style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">A good handshake isn’t a shortcut to her bed, but a bad one can doom you. Hands are loaded with tactile nerves, and people with weak, clammy handshakes were perceived as shy and neurotic in a recent study. So hold your drink in your left hand and give her a firm but not bone-crushing grasp. Pay attention to her grip as well: The same study showed that women who give firmer handshakes tend to be more adventurous.</span></p><br/><br/></div><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong style="font-style: inherit;">Your Voice</strong></span></p><br/><br/><div id="content1" style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">The most attractive women prefer deep-voiced men. It suggests high testosterone levels, a sign of strength and reproductive prowess. Push out air with your diaphragm, not your throat. This lengthens the column of air moving past your vocal cords.</span></p><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong style="font-style: inherit;">Your Icebreaker</strong></span></p><br/>Continue Reading on Page 2 Below<!--nextpage--><br/><div id="content1" style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">Say something that will draw out details about her. “Your friends seem nice—how did you get to know them?” is a compliment and a window into her past. Forming a bond will release dopamine, a mood booster in her brain. Show off your interest with verbal nods of agreement (“uh-huh,” “go on”).</span></p><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong style="font-style: inherit;">Your Conversation</strong></span></p><br/><br/><div id="content1" style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">We all know to ask lots of questions and to avoid flat-out boasting. But don’t sell yourself short. Women listen very carefully for signs of status and wealth. Keep any references to financial or personal success oblique, though—let her curiosity draw out the details. Another crucial conversation tip: Talk at the same pace she does and she’ll consider you intelligent, kind, confident, and ambitious.</span></p><br/><br/></div><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong style="font-style: inherit;">Your Body Language</strong></span></p><br/><br/><div id="content1" style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">Attraction causes couples to mirror each other’s body language. But don’t be overeager to connect. Stay relaxed and let her set the tone. Fidgeting conveys nervousness and triggers the empathetic release of stress chemicals in her brain. Once she brushes your shoulder or thigh, reciprocate within a minute or two. Or touch her inner forearm, a nerve-rich zone that will create sparks.</span></p><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong style="font-style: inherit;">Your Deal Closer</strong></span></p><br/><br/><div id="content1" style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">If you’ve made the right sort of first impression, she might be wondering how you are in bed. Consciously or not, she’s looking for signs that you’re patient and sensitive to the ways her body finds pleasure. Show refined tastes and sensitivity the rest of the time and she’ll suspect you have others worth exploring—back at her place.</span></p><br/><br/></div><br/></div><br/></div><br/></div><br/></div>

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Why Married Men and Women Flirt

<p style="color: #404040;">Flirting is often viewed as a way to meet potential mates. An overly flirtatious husband can cause several types of marriage problems. Often, the wife feels hurt, rejected, and alone vice versa.</p><br/><br/><div style="color: #404040;"><br/><div style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><br/><div class="h12_container_8245471480" style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;">The most common reasons why married men flirt:</div><br/></div><br/></div><br/><ul style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><br/> <li style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;">he is having a midlife crisis</li><br/> <li style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;">he is unhappy with wife</li><br/> <li style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;">he is not sexually attracted to his wife</li><br/> <li style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;">he likes the attention other women give him</li><br/> <li style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;">he is bored with married life</li><br/> <li style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;">he is insecure about self</li><br/></ul><br/><ul style="color: #404040;"><br/> <li style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;">it makes him feel better about himself</li><br/> <li style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;">he needs to validate his attractiveness and sexuality</li><br/> <li style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;">he thinks flirting is harmless</li><br/> <li style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;">he is looking to have an affair</li><br/> <li style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;">it is exciting</li><br/> <li style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;">to meet emotional needs such as feeling liked, being popular, or being thought of as funny, entertaining, attractive, or sexy</li><br/> <li style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;">as a passive-aggressive way of getting even with the wife. He may have felt rejected sexually and emotionally, so the flirting can be a message to the partner to shape up or risk losing the marriage</li><br/> <li style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;">an attempt to get the wife’s attention</li><br/></ul><br/><p style="color: #404040;">What to do if your husband flirts</p><br/><p style="color: #404040;">If your husband flirts, take a little time to yourself and think about how you feel when he flirts. Once you are familiar with your feelings talk with your husband about them. Talk with him in a non-confrontational way. Be careful not to threaten him. Let him know exactly how you feel and would it would take for you to feel better. Your husband might not realize he flirts. He also might not realize how it makes you feel. If your husband doesn’t want to talk to you about it or says that you are over-reacting, try talking to him again when he is more receptive. For instance, he might be less willing to listen to you if he is drunk or has just come home after a stressful day at work. He may be more open to listen and talk about it on his day off from work or on a Saturday afternoon.</p><br/>Continue Reading on Page 2 Below<!--nextpage--><br/><p style="color: #404040;" align="center">Why Married Women Flirt</p><br/><p style="color: #404040;">Flirting is a often viewed as a way to meet potential mates. A flirtatious wife can cause several types of marriage problems. Often, the husband feels hurt, rejected, insecure, and alone.</p><br/><p style="color: #404040;">The most common reasons why married women flirt:</p><br/><br/><ul style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><br/> <li style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;">her husband doesn’t give her the amount of attention she wants</li><br/> <li style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;">she is unhappy with husband</li><br/> <li style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;">she is not sexually attracted to her husband</li><br/> <li style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;">she likes the attention other men give her</li><br/></ul><br/><ul style="color: #404040;"><br/> <li style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;">she is bored with married life</li><br/> <li style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;">she is insecure about self</li><br/> <li style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;">it makes her feel better about herself</li><br/> <li style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;">she needs to validate her attractiveness and sexuality</li><br/> <li style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;">she thinks flirting is harmless</li><br/> <li style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;">she is looking to have an affair</li><br/> <li style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;">it is exciting</li><br/> <li style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;">to meet emotional needs such as feeling liked, being popular, or being thought of as funny, entertaining, attractive, or sexy</li><br/> <li style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;">as a passive-aggressive way of getting even with the husband. She may have felt rejected sexually and emotionally, so the flirting can be a message to her husband to shape up or risk losing the marriage.</li><br/> <li style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;">an attempt to get the husband’s attention</li><br/></ul><br/><p style="color: #404040;">What to do if your wife flirts</p><br/><p style="color: #404040;">If your wife flirts, take a little time to yourself and think about how you feel when she flirts. Once you are familiar with your feelings talk with your wife about them. Talk with her in a non-confrontational way. Be careful not to threaten or accuse her. Let her know exactly how you feel and would it would take for you to feel better. Your wife might not realize she flirts. She also might not realize how it makes you feel. If your wife doesn’t want to talk to you about it or says that you are over-reacting, try talking to her again when she is more receptive. For instance, she might be less willing to listen to you if he is had a stressful day at work of if she is worried about paying the bills. She may be more open to listen and talk about it on her day off from work or on a Sunday afternoon.</p>

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For The Ladies: Do’s & Don’ts When Another Woman Tries To Steal Your Man

<p style="color: #404040;"><span style="color: #000000;"><img align="middle" alt="Do's & Don'ts When Another Woman Hits On Your Guy" border="0" height="178" hspace="5" src="http://img.naij.com/n/05/3/women_jealous_of_me_and_my_boyfriend.jpeg" vspace="5" width="267" /></span></p><br/><p style="color: #404040;"><span style="color: #000000;">Funke is outraged. She and her boyfriend are out dancing with a group of friends. She notices another woman checking out her guy — even though he’s obviously with Funke. At one point, the woman grabs Funke’s boyfriend and starts dancing with him. He is embarrassed but plays along and dances for a few minutes with her. </span></p><br/><br/><div style="color: #404040;"><br/><div style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><br/><div class="h12_container_7434287630" style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">Later, Funke is mad at her boyfriend for continuing to dance with the other woman. She feels like he could have pushed her away or made a clearer statement that he’s in a relationship. The rest of the evening is ruined. Funke is continuously on the lookout for the woman who was so forward with her boyfriend. She worries that there’s more going on than she knows…</span></div><br/></div><br/>Continue Reading on Page 2 Below<!--nextpage--><br/><br/></div><br/><p style="color: #404040;"><span style="color: #000000;"><em style="font-weight: inherit;"><strong style="font-style: inherit;">When it seems like another woman is flirting with or coming on to your man, things can get ugly and fast. Your jealousy gets triggered, and you begin to question what you think you know about your partner and your relationship. Is he really the victim of unwanted advances or is something else happening? </strong></em></span></p><br/><p style="color: #404040;"><span style="color: #000000;">It doesn’t matter if you and your partner are at a bar, party, office event, out dancing or walking through your neighborhood. The two of you are enjoying one another’s company when — out of nowhere — another woman barges in. She runs up and hugs your guy or she rubs his shoulders and strokes his arm as she talks to him (and ignores you). Maybe she isn’t physically there, but has been texting him throughout the evening.</span></p><br/><p style="color: #404040;"><span style="color: #000000;">Your glares and “ahem’s” don’t seem to be getting through, and you feel jealous. It’s starting to seem that this other woman is trying to break you and your partner up!</span></p><br/><p style="color: #404040;"><span style="color: #000000;">Let’s be clear here. It’s not just other women who hit on men already in committed relationships. This opposite happens too. If you’re a heterosexual man in a monogamous relationship, it’s just as likely that another guy might try to pick up your woman. How you respond to someone else hitting on your partner can mean the difference between renewed trust and connection or more tension and distance in your relationship. <em style="font-weight: inherit;"><strong style="font-style: inherit;">Here are four do’s and don’ts to remember.</strong></em></span></p><br/><p style="color: #404040;"><span style="color: #000000;"><em style="font-weight: inherit;"><strong style="font-style: inherit;">1. Don’t confront the flirt.</strong></em> It is really tempting to let the other woman (or man) know that you don’t appreciate and will not allow this. Your first impulse may be to seek out the “tempter” or “temptress” and make it clear that your partner is taken! While this is understandable, it’s probably going to cause bigger troubles in your relationship. Here’s why…</span></p><br/><p style="color: #404040;"><span style="color: #000000;">You risk escalating the tension and conflict with the other person and in your relationship too; and You insert even more distance between you and your partner and miss an opportunity for healthy communication.</span></p><br/>Continue Reading on Page 2 Below<!--nextpage--><br/><p style="color: #404040;"><span style="color: #000000;"><em style="font-weight: inherit;"><strong style="font-style: inherit;">2. Don’t accuse. </strong></em>Pause, calm down and really think about it before you accuse your partner of breaking trust, betraying you or acting inappropriately. When you blame your partner without proof to back it up, you’re only going to drive him or her further away from you. Jealousy can bring accusations to your lips, so stay aware and really think before you talk about it. Accusations instantly put your partner on the defensive and are often inaccurate or don’t reflect the whole picture. So, unless you have verifiable and tangible proof that your partner broke trust, stop yourself before you make an accusation.</span></p><br/><p style="color: #404040;"><span style="color: #000000;"><em style="font-weight: inherit;"><strong style="font-style: inherit;">3. Do remember the facts.</strong></em> Get clear about the facts as you know them before you try to talk with your partner about what happened. When looking at facts, double check what you think you know and rely on information that is trustworthy. How many texts did your partner and the other woman exchange? Was there a valid reason for the exchange? What exactly did your partner say and do when the other woman hugged him? Don’t get side-tracked by what the other person said or did. Pay closest attention to facts about how your partner responded to being hit on.</span></p><br/><p style="color: #404040;"><span style="color: #000000;"><em style="font-weight: inherit;"><strong style="font-style: inherit;">4. Do create clear agreements. </strong></em>Conscious and specific agreements can positively transform your jealousy and a difficult situation. With an agreement in place, the next time someone seems to be hitting on your partner, you two will have a plan for how to de-fuse the situation and return to enjoying being together. If your partner dismisses the flirting (or whatever is going on) as “no big deal” and refuses to create an agreement with you, remain calm and stay focused on the facts. Arguing about this isn’t going to solve the problem or bring you ease.</span></p><br/><p style="color: #404040;"><span style="color: #000000;"><em style="font-weight: inherit;"><strong style="font-style: inherit;">Instead, shift your request to concrete ways you two can keep your connection strong. </strong></em>This might be an agreement to periodically check in with each other at a party by making eye contact or to text one another at lunch. You can also choose to set a boundary to make clear what you believe is appropriate and what is not. If your partner crosses that boundary, your decision then might be whether or not you will stay in the relationship.</span></p>

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TRUE CONFESSION – ”I Allowed My Best Friend Have Séx With My Wife, Have I Made A Mistake?”

<p style="color: #404040;"><img alt="" height="150" src="http://www.talkofnaija.com/images/baddd-oo-girl.jpg" width="200" /></p><br/><p style="color: #404040;"><strong style="font-style: inherit;">I will try and make this as short as possible.</strong></p><br/><p style="color: #404040;">Few months ago, out drinking with one of my best friend he begins telling me how séxy he finds my wife, and tells me he would love to have séx with her. He probably expected to get punched in the shoulder, but I told him this has always been a fantasy of mine, allowing</p><br/>my wife to sleép with another man.<br/><p style="color: #404040;">Although I have never told my wife, or anyone for that matter. My friend and I did not speak about it until a week ago, and I invited him over for dinner last night. I never thought anything would happen other than some minor flirting, due to her pérsonality.</p><br/><p style="color: #404040;">She is the typical business women, very serious, no nonsense and professional. My wife was dressed very nicely, wearing a short black dréss and black stilétto heels. I kept the drinks flowing, and the 2 of them started flirting heavily. He had his hands all over her and she was very responsive.</p><br/><p style="color: #404040;">I began making comments like you two need to get a room. Finally I said jokingly… you 2 should just get this over with and go in the room and have séx. I went in the kitchen to get another drink and I heard a door shut. They had gone in the room together, and I just waited in the living room.</p><br/><p style="color: #404040;">A few minutes later I knew my fantasy was coming true, as I heard her beginning to moán. I waited a while and listened to her getting louder and louder and finally peeked in. He had her pinned up against the wall náked wearing only her stiletto heels, pounding her absolutely senseless! I went back into the living room and listened to her.</p><br/><p style="color: #404040;">I have never heard her moán and scream that loud, and it went on for almost 2 hours. This morning she was concerned about how I felt and I assured her it was a huge turn on for me and that I was fine with it. I asked her for details of the experience and she told me that she had more orgásms than she could count, and that he was so big he could bárely fit inside her, but once he was inside it was the most amazing feeling she has ever had.</p><br/><p style="color: #404040;">I cannot wait for her to do this again, and she agreed to do this often! Should I just stop this now? I know I probably should, but really don’t want to!</p>

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Ladies, The 10 Things That Are Never Worth Crying Over

<div style="color: #404040;"><span style="color: #000000;"><img alt="Ladies, The 10 Things That Are Never Worth Crying Over" src="http://cdn29.elitedaily.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/02/crying.jpg" /></span></div><br/><div style="color: #404040;"><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">“There are two things in this life never worth crying about: what can be cured and what cannot be cured.”- Matthew Pearl</span></p><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">I like a good cry as much as the next person. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve come to relish in those few emotional and liberating moments, hours or half-days spent mourning a personal loss. </span></p><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">It’s a natural process that seems to heal us, like an outpouring of negative energy — an emptying of the soul, if only for a moment.</span></p><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">However, since moving to New York and being hurled into the masses of adulthood, I’ve found myself emotional and too quick to cry for my own good.</span></p><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">With all the extra stress, pressure and consistent adversity faced by young Millennials, I’ve become soft, prone to taking every word, every action and every opinion as a personal assault against my character.</span></p><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">I cry when I pass a baby on the street. I cry when a boy doesn’t call me back. I cry when I think of my grandmother. I cry at concerts and during fights with my roommate.</span></p><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">I cry when my parents don’t call me back and when I think that I’ll never find someone to care about.</span></p><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">I don’t know if it’s because I’m weak, emotional or just becoming one of those women — you know, the kind who cries at her kid’s graduation from kindergarten — but I’ve realized that crying has become a constant pain, rather than a sporadic release.</span></p><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">Life is too short to spend it crying every time something goes wrong, every time someone disappoints me. There’s too much good to constantly fret over the bad.</span></p><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">If I don’t start picking and choosing what’s truly worth crying over, I will never live a happy life — or at least one unmarked by mascara stains on my face.</span></p><br/><span style:"color:red;font-size:font-size:20px;">Continue Reading on Page 2 Below</span><!--nextpage--><br/><h2 style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">The One That Got Away</span></h2><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">You can’t spend your entire life obsessing over the boy who broke your heart, or the first boy you ever loved. There is a statute of limitation that comes with crying over your exes, and anywhere over a year is past its expiration.</span></p><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">You will never move on until you’ve let go of the idea that he was the only one for you. You broke up for a reason, even if you didn’t agree with the reason or have any say in it. He has moved on and now it’s time that you get on, too.</span></p><br/><br/><br/><hr /><br/><br/><h2 style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">Mean Girls</span></h2><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">We’ve already spent too much of our adolescence crying over b*tches from middle school, so why give them anymore tears? Crying over bitchy women just isn’t worth it because by now, you should know that a woman is only a bitch when she’s unhappy.</span></p><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">Feel sorry for her, rather than feeling sorry for yourself. As we go through life getting our hearts ripped out by men, women should be the least of our worries. Sisterhood should become the replacement for bad men and sh*tty dates.</span></p><br/><br/><br/><hr /><br/><br/><h2 style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">Your Looks</span></h2><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">It’s a hard reality to swallow, but the face you have now is the one you’re always going to have. You may never have big boobs or a fat ass like Beyoncé, or maybe you’ll never be less than 140 pounds or taller than five feet.</span></p><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">The sooner you get over fretting about your big nose or closely spaced eyes, the sooner you can move on with it and start caring about more important things… things that can be changed.</span></p><br/><br/><span style:"color:red;font-size:font-size:20px;">Continue Reading on Page 2 Below</span><!--nextpage--><br/><hr /><br/><br/><h2 style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">Opinions</span></h2><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">Opinions are like assh*les, everyone has one. Everyone is always going to have something to say about you, whether you deserve it or not.</span></p><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">Letting yourself get worked up over the opinions of others is a losing battle that will only bring you constant anxiety and a life similar to that of the lady screaming about chicken cutlets in the subway. The day you stop caring about what other people think is the day you are truly free.</span></p><br/><br/><br/><hr /><br/><br/><h2 style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">Possessions</span></h2><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">Never place too much importance or happiness on anything tangible; those things can be replaced, and if they can’t be replaced, they’re not worth crying over.</span></p><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">Life is too short to get upset over losing a diamond ring or a favorite crop top. Learn to let things go — accept that it’s all just “stuff” — and realize you still have the important things, like your health, your family and your life. Only when you rid yourself of material possessions will you feel unburdened and unattached.</span></p><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">Attaching yourself to as few things as possible is important because the fewer things you attach yourself to, the less vulnerable you are to pain when it’s lost.</span></p><br/><br/><br/><hr /><br/><br/><h2 style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">Jobs</span></h2><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">If you lose your job, get a new one. If you hate your job, get a new one. Crying over a job is like crying over spilled milk. Clean yourself up and move on with it.</span></p><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">Look at the ending of one chapter as an opportunity for new adventure, divine intervention or whatever rationale you need to understand that jobs come and go.</span></p><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">It’s all going to be all right in the end. You are most likely not at the job you are going to call your profession for another few years, anyway.</span></p><br/><br/><br/><hr /><br/><br/><h2 style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">The Assh*le</span></h2><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">We’ve all cried over that douchebag who didn’t deserve us. We’ve all let the assh*le come into our homes and tear us apart. In my opinion, we like the pain.</span></p><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">No woman willingly enters into a relationship (even a date) with a known assh*le without knowing, somewhere deep down, he’s going to hurt her. The assh*le is a fluke that you need to get out of your system to know when you’ve found a good one.</span></p><br/><br/><br/><hr /><br/><br/><h2 style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">Rejection</span></h2><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">Whether it comes in the form of letters or an empty call log, we will inevitably feel the sting of rejection many times throughout our lives. There’s no getting away from it.</span></p><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">Fearing rejection is like fearing the rain; you’ll live your entire life carrying around an umbrella. Rejection doesn’t mean you’re not a good catch or a good person; it means you weren’t right for a particular person, at that moment in time.</span></p><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">Stop taking rejection so personally and realize that not everything is going to work out. Just because you’re not picked first doesn’t mean you’ll always be last.</span></p><br/><br/><br/><hr /><br/><br/><h2 style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">Haircuts</span></h2><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">It took me many years to realize one very important truth about hair: It grows back.</span></p><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">Next time you get the insane idea that you’d look good with cross bangs, just remember when you’re staring at your frayed locks that it’s only gonna be like that for a few months. Life goes on and hair grows back.</span></p><br/><br/></div>

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YOU ARE THE REASON – The Harsh Truth As To Why You’re Still Single

<img alt="Zemanta Related Posts Thumbnail" src="http://www.234pulse.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/01/tumblr_mbm97jweTr1rbbxbro1_500.jpg" /><br/><p style="color: #404040;">The concept of finding your “one true love” has ruined relationships and lives of countless individuals. There is a common belief that once you find someone you love, that is where the journey ends. We have been taught by fairytales and romantic movies of sorts that finding someone to love, and finding someone who loves you in return, is where the story ends — the happily-ever-after ending, which has been reiterated throughout history ever since the concept of romantic love was discovered.</p><br/><br/><div style="color: #404040;"><br/><div style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;">Most people are under the illusion that romantic love is something that has roots all the way back to the birth of man, something completely natural. Unfortunately, that isn’t at all true. The concept of love itself has been around for much longer, but romantic love in the form we understand it today — courting and all — has only been around for fewer than 1,000 years.</div><br/></div><br/><p style="color: #404040;">Instead of being helpful, the concept of love we have is where love-related issues stem from for many of us. You wait for things to be just as “magical” and perfect as they are depicted in chick flicks and romantic novels — it’s not your fault; blame pop culture. Moments in life are only as magical as you make them. Magic isn’t found in actions themselves, but rather, in our interpretation of actions and how that interpretation compares to the expectations we have.</p><br/>Continue Reading on Page 2 Below<!--nextpage--><br/><p style="color: #404040;">If we expect something otherworldly, but interpret an experience as of this world, then we are bound to be disappointed. Disappointment is the killer of all potential love stories. If we wish to avoid ruining potentially great relationships, we have to tweak the way we see the world, adjust our expectations, understand that relationships require maintenance and understand why we are in a relationship in the first place.</p><br/><br/><p style="color: #404040;">Human beings do require social interaction — that’s a proven fact. If you don’t believe me, talk to any inmate who has been locked up in solitary for too long and has trouble talking or making eye contact of any sort. Likewise, we need to reproduce and improve the likelihood of our species surviving. There is nothing in our genetic makeup that requires us to “fall in love” or to be in love.</p><br/><p style="color: #404040;">Arguably, we may need to love, but being in love and loving are two different things entirely. We associate being in love with intense emotions that “move us.” Love itself isn’t the same thing — we love our family and friends, but we are not in love with them. What’s the differentiating factor in types of love? In a nutshell, it’s sex.</p><br/><p style="color: #404040;">“I love you, but I’m not in love with you.” Who hasn’t either heard or recited that statement in the past? I’m going to assume that most of you have been in this sort of situation before, either handing out or receiving this metaphorical kick to the gut. What is the first thing that goes when you begin to feel that you may be “falling out of love”? The sex. The sex loses its excitement and wonder, and then both parties begin to question whether or not they are still in love. Do you really love your partner if you don’t want to hump his or her brains out all day like you used to? No. But that’s only because being in love is basically an illusion. A very exciting, moving, almost magical illusion, but an illusion nonetheless. Love isn’t something that enters or leaves you. It’s a way of thinking; it’s a belief and it’s a choice.</p><br/><p style="color: #404040;">If you haven’t found love, you can only blame yourself. Maybe you haven’t met the right type of person (notice I said “type of person” and not “person”), but it’s much more likely that you haven’t really tried. You likely find traits you don’t like about people and strike those prospects off your list as not being “right” for you. You don’t love every little thing about someone; therefore, you can’t love that person, right? Ridiculous.</p><br/>Continue Reading on Page 2 Below<!--nextpage--><br/><p style="color: #404040;">I’m not arguing that you can fall for just about anyone, but it’s certain that you have passed up at least a handful of potentially beneficial relationships along the way. What’s even more likely is that you gave up on a great love story because you didn’t feel that things felt the way they should. You pictured your love life being everlastingly intense.</p><br/><p style="color: #404040;">I’ve made that mistake before. We all have. It’s okay, though, because you have to learn to love. Loving someone romantically is not a natural occurrence, but it is something that can be learned. It takes time, patience and practice. It takes knowing yourself and knowing what you want out of life. What purpose do you have for being in a relationship? If the relationship isn’t beneficial, then it’s wasteful.</p><br/><p style="color: #404040;">Being alone is almost always completely your own fault. You always have a choice that can be made. You can choose to make things work. You can choose to give people a try. You can choose to spend more time getting to know yourself so that when you do find someone worth your time, you’ll be better prepared for it. But chances are, you don’t. Chances are that you sit there and hope that your love story will fall into your lap just as it does in all those fictional stories fed by society. You hope that the relationship will work seamlessly and that there won’t be any ups and downs. Let me ask you this: How exciting is a steady relationship with no slumps or peaks?</p><br/><p style="color: #404040;">Just about as exciting as running on a treadmill. It’s not trying to avoid these ups and downs that’s important; it’s learning to navigate through the slumps to get back to those peaks. If you wanted to be in a decent relationship, you could be in one tomorrow — not a great one, but a decent one. Chemistry, unfortunately, isn’t quite as easy to find, but also not as difficult as one may think. If you’re in a densely populated area and you set your mind to having a great relationship, it can be done. The only question is: Are you ready for it?</p>

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How To Turn A Woman Off

<p style="color: #404040;"><span style="color: #000000;"><a href="http://www.drglover.com/blog" style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit; color: #865e18;" target="_blank"><span style="color: #000000;"><img alt="" name="" src="http://i.imgur.com/y1vn4Vu.jpg" /></span></a></span></p><br/><p style="color: #404040;"><span style="color: #000000;">While there may be many reasons why a woman might have low interest in interacting with you (the majority of which have nothing to do with you), there might be some things you are doing at the <strong style="font-style: inherit;">meta level</strong> that might trigger a low interest response in a woman (none of which includes you being a “loser”).</span></p><br/><br/><div style="color: #404040;"><br/><div style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><br/><div class="h12_container_5362314432" style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;">There are two common issues that Nice Guys and inexperienced daters project which women experience at a meta level. Both of these dynamics typically lead to <strong style="font-style: inherit;">low interest responses in women</strong>. These two issues are incongruence and anxiety.</span></div><br/></div><br/></div><br/><h3 style="font-weight: inherit; color: #404040;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong style="font-style: inherit;">Incongruence</strong></span></h3><br/><p style="color: #404040;"><span style="color: #000000;">Incongruence is a big issue for most men, but it is especially true for Nice Guys and inexperienced daters. Here are a few examples of incongruence.</span></p><br/><br/><ul style="color: #404040;"><br/> <li style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong style="font-style: inherit;">When you approach a woman or hang out with a woman you like, but repress your true interest in her, you are being incongruent.</strong></span></li><br/> <li style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong style="font-style: inherit;">Whenever you seek someone else’s approval, you are being incongruent.</strong></span></li><br/> <li style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong style="font-style: inherit;">Whenever you hide your feelings, thoughts, agenda, or actions, you are being incongruent.</strong></span></li><br/> <li style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong style="font-style: inherit;">When you try to be a woman’s “friend” but you really want to fuck her, you are being incongruent.</strong></span></li><br/> <li style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong style="font-style: inherit;">When you try looking interested in what a woman is saying but are actually bored to tears, you are being incongruent.</strong></span></li><br/> <li style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong style="font-style: inherit;">Whenever you play it safe to avoid upsetting a woman, you are being incongruent.</strong></span></li><br/> <li style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong style="font-style: inherit;">Of course, when you lie, withhold information, or create any kind of false illusion, you are being incongruent.</strong></span></li><br/></ul><br/><p style="color: #404040;"><span style="color: #000000;"> </span></p><br/><p style="color: #404040;"><span style="color: #000000;">Here is the clincher, it doesn’t matter what you are being incongruent about –<strong style="font-style: inherit;">you might just be holding back gas or trying not to look at a woman’s tits</strong> – most women will pick up the meta-communication.</span><br/><span style="color: #000000;">Even if a woman isn’t consciously aware of the incongruence she is feeling, or the cause of it, she will have a negative reaction at an unconscious level.</span></p><br/><p style="color: #404040;"><span style="color: #000000;">Incongruence feels terrible to women. This is why everything I teach to both single and married men has the same core message: <strong style="font-style: inherit;">“Be honest and be yourself.”</strong></span></p><br/><p style="color: #404040;"><span style="color: #000000;">Being congruent with women includes:</span></p><br/>Continue Reading on Page 2 Below<!--nextpage--><br/><ul style="color: #404040;"><br/> <li style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong style="font-style: inherit;">Being open, honest, and transparent</strong></span></li><br/> <li style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong style="font-style: inherit;">Setting the tone and taking the lead</strong></span></li><br/> <li style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong style="font-style: inherit;">Not seeking a woman’s approval</strong></span></li><br/> <li style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong style="font-style: inherit;">Bringing your sexual agenda</strong></span></li><br/> <li style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong style="font-style: inherit;">Turning the censor off, blurting</strong></span></li><br/></ul><br/><p style="color: #404040;"><span style="color: #000000;">By being congruent, you allow a woman to decide if she likes you just as you are. You don’t give her that chance if you hide who you are from her.</span></p><br/><p style="color: #404040;"><span style="color: #000000;">When a woman experiences incongruence with a man, she won’t want to get close. In fact, she’ll want to get as far away from him as she can.</span></p><br/><p style="color: #404040;"><span style="color: #000000;">That is why I’m not a pickup guy. This is why I don’t try and turn men into<strong style="font-style: inherit;">“geeks with techniques”</strong> by teaching them pickup routines. While memorized pickup lines and sets may work on drunken 22-year-olds, most women see through the incongruence.</span></p><br/><p style="color: #404040;"><span style="color: #000000;">So if a woman has low interest in you, it is not because she can see through you. It is more likely because she can’t see you.</span></p><br/>Continue Reading on Page 2 Below<!--nextpage--><br/><h3 style="font-weight: inherit; color: #404040;"><span style="color: #000000;">Anxiety</span></h3><br/><p style="color: #404040;"><span style="color: #000000;"><strong style="font-style: inherit;">Anxiety is contagious. </strong>In all pack, flock, or herd type animals, anxiety is transmitted as an early warning system of potential danger. One dog anxiously barks and every other dog in the neighborhood starts barking. One bird flies out of a tree and the whole flock flies away. One cow is spooked by a snake, and the rest of the herd stampedes.</span></p><br/><p style="color: #404040;"><span style="color: #000000;">This same energetic transfer of anxiety occurs in humans as well. If one person in an emotional system is anxious, the other people in that system will experience the anxiety.</span></p><br/><p style="color: #404040;"><span style="color: #000000;">While none of us enjoy feeling anxious, women especially hate it — especially when it isn’t their own!</span></p><br/><p style="color: #404040;"><span style="color: #000000;">After 30 years as a marriage therapist, two marriages, and 9 years of conscious dating, here is the one thing I know for sure about women — they are <strong style="font-style: inherit;">“security seeking creatures.”</strong></span></p><br/><p style="color: #404040;"><span style="color: #000000;">As feminist Maureen Dowd puts it, <strong style="font-style: inherit;">“Women are emotionally complex and physically vulnerable.”</strong> For hundreds of thousands of years, women have walked the planet feeling anxious. Evolution has wired them to look to men to provide and protect. We are their security system.</span></p><br/><p style="color: #404040;"><span style="color: #000000;">So when a man approaches a woman and he is anxious, either because of inexperience, approval seeking, or attachment to outcome, the woman picks up his anxiety. Her brain might be reading the meta-communication of the man’s body language, facial expressions, lack of eye contact, and pitch of his voice — but it is more than that. <strong style="font-style: inherit;">She feels his anxiety energetically. It vibrates throughout her body.</strong></span></p><br/><p style="color: #404040;"><span style="color: #000000;">Remember, <strong style="font-style: inherit;">attraction for a woman is based on how a man makes her feel.</strong> If you make a woman feel anxious because you are anxious, she will want to get as far away from you as she can.</span></p><br/><p style="color: #404040;"><span style="color: #000000;">Since a woman is programmed by Mother Nature to look to a potential mate as a security system, your anxiety will immediately disqualify you. The programming of her unconscious mind screams, “If he is anxious about talking to an insecure little girl like me, how will he be powerful enough to provide for me and protect me?”</span></p><br/><p style="color: #404040;"><span style="color: #000000;">As one woman once told me, <strong style="font-style: inherit;">“If you can’t stand up to me, how do I know you will be able to stand up for me?”</strong></span></p><br/><p style="color: #404040;"><span style="color: #000000;">Women want us to help them feel safe. That is why they are attracted to confident men, men who can soothe their own anxiety, and men with their nut sack intact.</span></p><br/><p style="color: #404040;"><span style="color: #000000;">Women can’t look into your soul and tell that you are a loser, but their heightened empathy and response to a meta-communication often leads to dating frustration for anxious and incongruent men.</span></p>

How To Turn A Woman Off

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4 Advantages Ugly Guys Have With Women

<figure id="attachment_138861" style="color: #404040;"><img alt="Ugly Guy Hot Girl" height="420" src="http://wac.450f.edgecastcdn.net/80450F/guyspeed.com/files/2013/06/Ugly-Guy-Hot-Girl.jpg" title="Ugly Guy Hot Girl" width="630" /><br/><figcaption><br/></figcaption></figure><br/><p style="color: #404040;">Think of the hottest woman you know in real life – now think about her boyfriend or husband. He’s probably not as good-looking as his partner. Sure, there are handsome men in the world, and those guys usually end up with equally as gorgeous spouses, but there are far more attractive women in the world than men. Unattractive men get a ton of tail.</p><br/><br/><div style="color: #404040;"><br/><div style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"></div><br/></div><br/><p style="color: #404040;">Unattractive, or average, guys usually get the girl (sometimes multiple girls) but why? It’s simple – they’ve got a huge advantage over attractive men when it comes to dating.</p><br/><p style="color: #404040;">Here are four advantages to being an ugly guy and how their unattractiveness lands them women.</p><br/><br/><div id="tsLists" style="color: #404040;"><br/><div style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><br/><div style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><br/><div style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><br/><h3 style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;">Women Are Always Caught Off Guard By Ugly Guys</h3><br/></div><br/><div style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;">Women know when they are about to get hit on even before a guy utters a word. A woman will respond by either 1) playing along because she’s interested or 2) putting her guard up because she’s not interested or sometimes 3) slowly palming a canister of mace because some men are just incredibly creepy.</p><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;">If a ridiculously attractive woman is approached by a guy with a face like deli-counter roast beef, her guard is immediately down, because she’s positive there is no chance he’s going to hit on her and – POW! — old lunchmeat lips gets her number.</p><br/><br/></div><br/></div><br/><div style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><br/><div style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><br/><div style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><br/><div style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><br/><div style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><br/><h3 style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;">Ugly Guys Don’t Get Profiled</h3><br/></div><br/></div><br/></div><br/></div><br/><div style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><br/><div style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><br/><div style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><img alt="Cool Guy" src="http://wac.450f.edgecastcdn.net/80450F/guyspeed.com/files/2013/06/Cool-Guy.jpg?w=630&h=0&zc=1&s=0&a=t&q=89" title="Cool Guy" width="630" /><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;">Eye-pleasing people tend to get judged by those less attractive in the world. Men automatically hate a handsome man, because we’re a competitive gender, and the good-looking guy has an advantage in the situation. Women automatically make assumptions about an attractive dude (he’s probably conceited/a womanizer/gay) based solely on the adorable face his momma gave him.</p><br/><br/></div><br/></div><br/></div><br/><div style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;">Take a long look at an ugly guy in a crowd and the only thought that pops to mind is “man, that guy is ugly” and usually nothing more. Ugly men enter every social or romantic situation with a clean slate.</p><br/><br/></div><br/></div><br/><div style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><br/><div style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><br/><div style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><br/><div style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><br/><div style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><br/><h3 style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;">Ugly Guys Are More Well-Rounded People</h3><br/></div><br/></div><br/></div><br/></div><br/><div style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><br/><div style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><br/><div style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><img alt="Food Laboratory" src="http://wac.450f.edgecastcdn.net/80450F/guyspeed.com/files/2013/06/Scientists.jpg?w=630&h=0&zc=1&s=0&a=t&q=89" title="Food Laboratory" width="630" /></div><br/></div><br/></div><br/><div style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;">The expression “he gets by on his looks” is popular for a reason – good-looking people tend to skate by in life because the world is a lot nicer to attractive people. This puts attractive men at a distinct disadvantage in the world because rarely do they learn to do anything on their own.</p><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;">Less attractive guys spend more time learning about the world. Ever see an incredibly attractive biologist? How about a drop dead gorgeous Nobel Prize recipient?  Three out of four guys in every band are ugly. Ugly guys spend less time with personal upkeep – think about how many hours a week handsome men spends trying to stay handsome – and spend more time improving internally.</p><br/><br/></div><br/></div><br/><div style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><br/><div style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><br/><div style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><br/><div style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><br/><div style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><br/><h3 style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;">The Ugly Guy Has Nothing to Lose</h3><br/></div><br/></div><br/></div><br/></div><br/><div style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><br/><div style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><br/><div style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><img alt="Hot Girl Kissing Ugly Guy" src="http://wac.450f.edgecastcdn.net/80450F/guyspeed.com/files/2013/06/Hot-Girl-Kissing-Ugly-Guy.jpeg?w=630&h=0&zc=1&s=0&a=t&q=89" title="Hot Girl Kissing Ugly Guy" width="630" /><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"> Honestly, what’s the worst outcome in any scenario with a woman? She’ll say no. It’s a word an ugly guy has heard his entire life. He tried, failed, and moved on. Attractive guys tend to take any “no” to heart because refusal doesn’t happen very often.</p><br/><br/></div><br/></div><br/></div><br/><div style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><br/><p style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;">There are obviously advantages that good-looking men have over unattractive guys but these are four points that prove even ugly dudes can get lucky.</p><br/><br/></div><br/></div><br/></div><br/></div>

4 Advantages Ugly Guys Have With Women

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6 Reasons Men Don’t Accept Corrections

<p style="color: #000000;">Hey ladies in the house, don’t know if you’ve experienced this bu it’s the truth. It’s always annoying when we try our best to advice or correct our guys/boyfriends when they are wrong or better still not admitting that they are ever wrong but always claim to be right. Have you ever thought why this is so?</p><br/><p style="color: #000000;">Maybe because society deems them the head, so decision making is their forte. Anyway I don’t think it’s a male thing. The environment we are in gives a man lots of freedom and power to rule the family without providing him enough limitations may if he goes astray yo welcome corrections.</p><br/><p style="color: #000000;"><span style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><strong style="font-style: inherit;">1. It’s Nature but Love Conquers All</strong></span></p><br/><p style="color: #000000;">It is a natural feeling which grows to any male leave alone human beings even male wild animals have that mentally thing that they are superior over their females and its something we can’t plug it out of their systems. But I tell you where there is love, there is correcting and is received with both hands. It’s a natural phenomenon, never look at it with a gender binoculars, they just don’t like been corrected. Change to them is like a syndrome”</p><br/><p style="color: #000000;"><span style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><strong style="font-style: inherit;">2. It’s not a Thing for Everyone</strong></span></p><br/><p style="color: #000000;">Yes. It doesn’t sound well at all! Today he corrected you and tomorrow you are there you want to correct him. Oooh no, to him such imitations are an bearable, he can’t stand that. It’s like you were putting him in a lookout so that if he slightly wrongs you he meets your corrections, I tell you will be only making noise to yourself, he will never welcome this. If everyone in the world made it a habit to correct the other person then this world will be unbearable to live in.</p><br/><p style="color: #000000;"><span style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><strong style="font-style: inherit;">3. Men Think they are Always Right</strong></span></p><br/><p style="color: #000000;">It is because people (including men cheesy) usually trust their own judgment and think they are right. The Man thinks he’s right. The GF/Wife who is trying to correct the man also thinks she’s right. This is human character, not man character. The man thinks he got more experience in everything, he sees no reason why he should be corrected. Note that he sometimes takes correction but would never admit that u made him change. Don’t push it though, when you advise him and he doesn’t listen, leave it that way. The wise ones always ponder on advices given.</p><br/><p style="color: #000000;"><span style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><strong style="font-style: inherit;">4. What Other Word but EGO?</strong></span></p><br/><p style="color: #000000;">They think it is because they run the world. Nothing else can change them only a fellow man. Not that they disrespect women but because of male chauvinism, they feel they are men and should not be treated like the other gender, they are men. Men rules baby, but as someone says, love conquers all. ‘’ I always listen to the one I love but not when it’s fucking time’’ some men have got ego and believe that.</p><br/><p style="color: #000000;"><span style="font-weight: inherit; font-style: inherit;"><strong style="font-style: inherit;">5. The Way of Approach</strong></span></p><br/><p style="color: #000000;">The way you approach your man means a lot in a relationship. Understand his psychology first.</p><br/><p style="color: #000000;">Men think they are alpha male and lead, so are therefore always right though it depends on the type of guy and the type of advice because others don’t hate the advice but showing them how silly they are is what they hate most.</p>

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