Did you know that your husband and most men view romance through different lenses than most women? What is something romantic that you would like your spouse to do for you?
Meeting your husband’s romantic needs involves more than understanding the differences between men and women. It also means remembering what pleases him. And it means sacrificing your own needs to meet those of your husband. Selfishness and romance do not mix well. I’d like to help you become an even greater student of your husband. You’ve got to carefully investigate the real thing. But here are five keys to help you know where to look for the deeper answers.
1. He Needs Your Sincere Respect
One of the deepest needs a man has is to be respected by his wife. Respecting your husband includes listening to him, not simply hearing the words that come out of his mouth, but taking what he is saying seriously. It does not matter what the reason might be for you to ignore what he told you; it still hits him in the stomach. If you were to do this frequently, it would have definite consequences in your relationship and in the bedroom.
Another way to respect your husband is to honor him for what he is doing to meet the needs of the family. Showing gratefulness to a man is like feeding him his favorite meal. It is a feast to his heart and soul. Even if he is doing a poor job in some areas, there must be something he does well — providing for the family through his job, keeping the house clean, or perhaps leading the family in devotions.
2. He Needs to Feel Sexually Needed
Your husband wants you to be the receiver of his love in a way that communicates affection and warmth to him. It’s best when you do this within the full blown perspective of being a woman, being feminine, not becoming masculine, but being the affirming arms of the love of God for your husband. The wise woman understands that her man longs to be needed sexually by her. If you really want to get to the bottom line for men, and you really want to express love to your husband in a powerful way, just express to your husband that you need him sexually.
3. He Needs Your Adventurous Companionship
He just loves that time together with you somewhere outside your home place. I mean you two exclusive of your children if any. He loves your time together because it is an adventure with plenty of time for just the two of you to talk and share our thoughts and your dreams.
4. His S3xual Satisfaction
Your husband is a sexual creature made in the image of God. Many wives misunderstand this. They think the male sex drive is something dirty. They wonder if God holds His nose every time a man initiates. Why do some women think this way? Because, in all likelihood, they fail to remember the male sex drive is God’s idea.
I’m not surprised that this gift which God intended to use as a means to draw husbands and wives closer, Satan twists to drive them apart. Most men, for example, find initiating the sex act one of the riskiest ventures he could ever make. Why? Each time he initiates sex, he risks rejection.
When a man is rejected often enough, he typically internalizes his anger, his hurt, and his disappointment until such time when the rejection drives him to one of several reactions — none of them are good. He will give up on the relationship, he will seek alternative sexual outlets such as pornography, or he might compromise his wedding vows by pursuing female affirmation elsewhere.
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